The most important element of any fulfilling sexual relationship is good communication. Learning how to listen to your partner is the foundation of real intimacy and great sex. Because good sex is based on good communication, there is no magic formula for achieving the ultimate climax. The key is to experience the many aspects of intimacy and lovemaking and not concentrate on just intercourse and orgasms. The less you think about the climax and enjoy the voyage getting there, the more amazing the climax will be once you get there